I'm often lucky here, as I've worked with some amazing people.

Yet sometimes I catch myself hesitating over small details that doesn't matter because at some point in my life a small detail like that did hurt as someone caught it and used it against me.

I discussed user stories and acceptance criteria with some colleagues on a project recently and the team lead pointed out that the texts we write are just for communicating here and now, they won't be pulled out and used against us next year.

This might hopefully sound obvious to a lot of people but for me I realized this allowed me to lower my shoulders somewhat and like so many other details it frees up mental capacity for the task at hand.

And together all those small details make a huge difference.